Authorabiwurdeman
April 1, 2021
We Need to Talk About Not Talking About Anti-Asian Hate
The violence and harassment against Asian-Americans is very, very real. It’s happening. A lot. In our own communities. And you know what all the people talking about it on my social media timelines have in common? They’re Asian-American. With a couple exceptions, the non-Asian folk who lit up my social media during every peak in the BLM movement over…
December 10, 2020
A Little Background on the New Book…
After an unexpected delay, my Christmas novella, Holiday Gifts for Insufferable People, is now available for pre-order on Amazon. For the time being, it’s only available in Kindle, but—fun fact!—you can read a Kindle ebook on any device using the free Kindle app. I wrote Holiday Gifts for Insufferable People with one specific goal in mind: I wanted to give…

June 19, 2020
A Quick Chat, Ally to Ally
Dear Readers, My original plan for my first post on the new and improved website was to tell you all about my plans for future content and newsletters in a post riddled with happy images and exclamation points. I’m really not feeling that messaging at the moment. For now, I just want to share some videos and articles that have…

January 1, 2020
I am the recipient’s daughter.
Written at 1:00 a.m. several months ago. I am sitting in the dark at Peter’s dining room table next to the shadow of a wine bottle I drained at dinner (it was four nights in the draining, for the record) and next to the wildflowers Peter picked for me after rock climbing today. I want to be asleep, but I’m…
February 13, 2019
In Honor of Galentine’s Day: Wedding Vows for Friends
A number of years ago (I’m too lazy to look up how many), our foremother Leslie Barbara Knope established the holiday of Galentine’s Day. This sacred celebration (which happens to land on my birthday, not that I’m fishing) centers around lady friendships . . . those affirming, infinitely supportive, occasionally complicated relationships that inspire and sustain us every day. In…
January 1, 2019
We Are All Freaking Out (and Other Truths to Help You Conquer Your Goals in 2019)
I published my first book five days ago. Here is a short list of some feelings I have felt over the past month: Elation Fear Confidence Intimidation Exhaustion Uncertainty Delirium Confusion Unexplained Gut-Wrenching Intolerable Impatience Deep Satisfaction Fear Fear Fear Terror Fear This is not a comprehensive list. I suspect, however, it is a familiar one for anyone who has…
December 13, 2018
That Time I Dated Crazy
I accidentally stood Sam up the first time he asked me out, but only because I thought he was joking. For one thing, he was my coworker at the casino, and we were forbidden from dating one another. This rule—like all of Corporation’s rules—was born of company paranoia. A romantic relationship was likely to be a distraction, and distractions meant…
December 13, 2018
I Wrote This Book.
Cross-Section of a Human Heart: A Memoir of Early Adulthood comes out in paperback and Kindle on December 26 (Kindle version available for pre-order now). If you read my old blog, That Time in My Twenties, this book is that, only revised, fleshed out, and with a lot of new material. If you didn’t read my blog, it was pretty much…
November 21, 2018
DFW Airport (Dallas, TX)
I have been to Dallas Fort Worth Airport more times than I remember. It has been a way station since college, the layover between St. Louis and Lubbock, then between Los Angeles and St. Louis, between Los Angeles and Tyler, between Los Angeles and Fargo once, for some reason. The first time I flew through DFW, I was eighteen, and…